In Oct 2009, I lost my husband of 14 yrs to cancer. We are not sure what type of cancer it was. It was just so fast. We were told on Oct 19th he had cancer & he passed away the very next day. The kind of cancer was not important, cancer is cancer. Cancer doesn’t discriminate. Cancer kills.
After the anger, grieving, selfishness, bargaining, depression, begging & pleading for his life & mercy during the pain…I was left alone with 2 boys.
The boys & I sat down & made a bucket list. On this blog, I’ll share with you our list, why we made it, and how we’ve marked each item off. Somethings we have done alone, others we have marked off together. Perhaps, I’ll share some crazy adventures we’ve had along the way too!
Wow. One DAY? I knew you were a widow, but i didn’t know the circumstances and didn’t want to pry for bringing up sad memories. But yeah; that is… Sudden. I know when I lost my dad back when I was 19, I had about maybe 6 months that his illness got worse and worse. It’s never easy to lose anyone you love, but to have one day to the next be that quick… Hmm. I guess having been on the other side of the fence on that, at least the two of you got to spend almost all of your time together up until that point blissfully unaware of what was coming. It made it harder to deal with afterward, granted, but at least you didn’t spend 6 months of your time left together watching and waiting for the Sword of Damocles to fall… Trust me; it makes it no easier anticipating the inevitable, and knowing that you are unable to do a damn thing to change it. Little comfort in that, perhaps, but at least you had that much more of your life together. Sometimes, all you have is all you get. I wish it had been more for the both of you.
He and I knew for about 3 weeks before the Doctors told us, so I went through the anger stage early. He didn’t want his mom, brother, sister, daughters (4 of them), it our son’s to know. It wasn’t a shock for he and I, but or was for the others. I had a small amount of time and tried to drop some very obvious hints to others. But through it all, I kept my promises in everything he asked. It wasn’t easy, but the boys & I coped & still are coping somewhat better, I guess, than the others.