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Changes after Death

This particular article is difficult to write, but part of healing is sharing.
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Death is not easy on survivors, the friends of the deceased, or the survivors friends. We are nearing the 3 year mark after losing my husband, the kids’ father and embarking on the PTSD  journey.  It seems with each passing year, each family member affected by his death is still affected in a different way. It goes without saying that each person heals differently after experiencing a traumatic death in their lives. Some still carry very tender hearts and others just ignore that the date of the event on the calendar exists. Rarely does anyone speak of the actual event any longer. I have heard it said that time heals all wounds, but this is not the case for everyone. If someone brings him up, they mention him, not the event. This too is part of the healing process. I guess we are making progress after all 🙂
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Tragedy can bring people closer together and it can pull people far apart. After a period of time passes, many people tend to forget that there is no correct or incorrect way to grieve. There is no correct or incorrect length of time for someone to move on with life either. Moving on with life or “living” doesn’t mean that you have forgotten what you had, who that person was, or what they meant to you. Because this can be forgotten, some people in a family can turn against the ones that they feel like are not grieving appropriately in their minds. They begin to pass judgement. Along with judgment, comes bitterness, anger, and a complete re-visitation of the grieving process. The person who allows anger to fester inside of them experiences many sets backs from their healing.

Death is not prejudice. It takes who it pleases. Death is not questionable. It is final. Death is not arguable, it wins. It is uncaring, selfish, ugly, and can change people forever. Death can bring out the worst or the best in those around you while one grieves or while one heals. Death changes the image of people that we have in our minds. Death can use a person’s emotions again them. Death changes perception.

Children process death differently in their mind than a spouse, parent, or friend. After losing a parent, children want to see the surviving parent alone. They are unwilling to accept anyone else in the surviving parents life. Another woman will never be good enough. Another man will be unacceptable. Surviving children can be cruel because their emotions over take them. They will feel as though the surviving parent has fallen out of love with the deceased parent at some point, even if they remain alone for the rest of their lives. They will assume that the surviving parent is trying to replace the deceased if they choose to re-marry. They can harbor resentment, anger, and in some cases guilt because they like the new “parent” brought into their lives by the surviving parent.
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A death in the family can actually be quite dangerous to one’s emotional state & the unity of that family. Siblings will turn against Siblings. Mother against father or vice versa.  If everyone involved is not understanding of the other members of the family and their feelings, the family can be destroyed.

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Mean People

All people have good days, we have bad days, and every day in life is different. One of our greatest challenges is to remain calm, neutral, and peaceful when faced with adversity thrown at us by Mean People.

What makes a person mean?

Someone who delights in others demise.

Someone who is not happy with themself or their current situation, so they seek to make others miserable.

Someone who feels as though everyone should be like them, because THEY are the only one right.

It’s that person who cut you off as you pulled up to the pump to fill up your gas tank.

The lady that just squeezed and bruised every orange in the produce aisle, then walked away smiling, with no plans to buy any.

A mean person can even be a jealous friend or loved one that feels they live in your shadow.

Generally speaking, all people are not mean by nature. How they perceive the world has treated them, has jaded their reality. Therefore, they treat the world as they feel they have been treated: rude, abusive, intolerant, bossy, dishonestly, blaming others, making excuses, and shirking responsibility, or selfishly inconciderate.

These people many times are not aware of how mean or hurtful their words or actions are received.

Don’t be a mean person in life.

Life is too short to spend time
wandering aimlessly in the dark.
Realize how your actions impact others before you find yourself laying on your death bed, wishing you were surrounded by people who love you, instead of people that are paid to see you off to another world.

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