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Should he stay or should he go?


In May of this year, one of my dreams was realized. My oldest son graduated High School with Honors. It was a fabulous feat and I was so proud of him.

Nicky's crooked cap

Nicky’s crooked cap

Being a successful graduate may seem like nothing nowadays, but I came from a family where I was the only person in the household that actually graduated High School. So, hopefully you can see where this was a proud moment for me :-)  Nicky, true to himself all the way, was near the front of the line as the soon to be graduates walked down the path to the commencement ceremony. In true Nicky fashion, his cap sat ever so precariously atop his head…tilted. Now, just to make a point, you should know that many of the seniors decorated the top of their cap so they would stand out, make a statement, or be easily recognized by family. Some kids were wearing sunglasses, loud shoes or boots, neon clothing on their legs, rainbow colored hair, etc. Nicky, bless his heart, stood out without trying (just as he always has). He couldn’t really be blamed for the crooked cap. We paid the ridiculous fee of $50 for the tissue thin cap and gown that he would “own” after the event. The gown survived the ceremony with only 1 rip in it, but the cap didn’t even make it 5 minutes before the lining unravelled and lost its shape.

My Boy :)

My Boy :)

My youngest son had a performance at the commencement ceremony with his choral ensemble group. His group was projected onto the large screen that hung over the stadium. I dare say he was the most handsome boy in a tux present, but then again, I am a bit bias.

My beautiful boy with long hair)

My beautiful boy with long hair)

Our middle child was present to support his friends. He was somewhere in the massive audience of attendance. A couple of the boy’s sisters showed up to support him and we snapped a few memorable group pictures.

Family Shot

Family Shot

So, he did it! He graduated and I had all these grandeur ideas about life for him …and selfishly for myself.  Personally, I had already turned his bedroom into an office and was hoping he would seek the independence that most kids his age so desire. That freedom that comes when you live on your own and supper consist of ramen noodles, peanut butter sandwiches and bringing laundry home to mom on the weekends. I could so live with that!! You know, those days when you first discovered coffee & that the magic stay awake power it possesses to help you write that paper due at the last minute? I was willing to help him out as he helped himself too! These were my expectations.

I had dreams of him getting a job (or at least helping around the house), going to college (which he is doing now), moving out (after accomplishing goal #1 – getting a job), and beginning his wonderful new life. Reality sat in after several weeks had passed and the only goal he had accomplished was beating several new missions in his video games with his friends on-line. The prodding began gently: “Nicky honey, have you been putting in applications for employment?” He would say, “Yeah, but no one will hire me until I’m 18 mom! Hey, what’s for supper?”  I would allow a week to pass. I asked nicely for several weeks and then frustration sat in. My husband began to bring him paper applications from every place he saw a “now hiring” sign. No progress. Soon, my gentle prodding turned into motherly nagging…daily. I reminded him school would start soon and that he was not going to get through life living for free. He said “Mom, I’m not 18. I’m not even legally able to give blood without your consent. Don’t worry. I’ll get a job after school starts.” I waited….and waited…and am still waiting. School did start. He had that life changing 18th birthday and now, he still resides at home…currently unemployed. He is doing well in school as far as I can tell though and I pray daily that he will seek employment soon. Some work experience is better than none, even if he only works 4 hours a week!

On a positive note, he has mowed part of the lawn a few times since school ended and did the dishes for about a week. Occasionally he’ll offer to help fold laundry. He is doing well in school as far as I can tell and I’m very proud of that! I pray daily that he will seek employment soon.

Don’t think me cruel, I want the best for him and obviously my nagging has gotten nowhere. I think he will be a very accomplished young man at some point in his life and hope I am alive to see it. I love him dearly and hope to post an update soon with something very uplifting and encouraging about his progress!

If anyone has any advice, I’d love to hear it!! Please, please, oh PLEASE leave advice in the comments section. I promise to try all reasonable advice given and report back!

Yours truly,

Chrissy

Thank You Dear


True story:

My husband asked, “Why haven’t you written in your blog?”

My answer was simple. “I haven’t felt as chipper or adventurous. I started the blog on the basis of adventure and I can’t just change horses in mid-stream, so I just stopped writing.”

After such a comment, he took me down memory lane and recounted the past year. It was an amazing tale of exciting events, adventures, new places, strange happenings, and a lot of funny stories. As guilt swelled in my tummy, I realized that it was my mindset that lost that “adventure” and not my life. So, as a tribute to him, I promise to write again.

Soon… I promise!

Chrissy

Unhappy?


To live with someone who is perpetually unsatisfied, unhappy, & seemingly unfulfilled is miserable indeed.

It’s a life of constantly trying to paint a rainbow for someone who only sees fog. It’s like trying to make a sad clown smile. Begging a person you love to see life through different eyes is like trying to convince a caterpillar that one day it will fly.

Some people are never happy with their lives though. They are simply not content.

It’s tiring. It’s sad. If you’re not careful, you’ll get sucked into their unintentional vortex of self inflicted misery. It’s exhausting to live with & can break the soul of a good hearted person. It’s contagious.

We can’t fix everyone. We can’t help those who don’t want to be happy. Some people have this unhappy, unsatisfied, & uncontent nature so deeply ingrained in them they can’t see it. They deny it. They justify it. They even embrace it (because they couldn’t identify with themselves without it). Those sad folks will reach out for positivity from time to time, but not embrace happiness themselves. They’ll crave to be around happy people to feed off the happy vibe.
But slowly, they will suck the happy slowly away from the unsuspecting donor.

How can anyone not smile when they see a sunrise? How can someone not be filled with joy when walking on the beach. Why does someone push away their peace while hiking in the mountains? If a small child hands you a toy phone, how do you not feel a happy tingle when you see them smile as you answer it. How can you not feel like you’d take on the world when your little girl or boy calls out “daddy” or “mommy”. When you feel a breeze on your face, how can you not feel peaceful? Why wouldn’t you be grateful to have a wife/husband at home – there waiting on you, loving you, trying to make your days easier…more happy?
How can that dog whose so happy to see you mean nothing? Doesn’t your cat make you happy as he purs loudly seeking safety in your arms?

But, alas…Some people are never happy with what they have (always thinking back on things that were or looking onward to things that could be). Some people will spend their entire existence coveting what someone else has while ignoring what they have right in front of them.

So sad.

You can’t help someone who doesn’t want help :( And at this point in my life, I’m exhausted…& tired.

Oops!


Oops! I haven’t written anything since last November.

How could I forget about this site? Simple…I’ve been a bit busy with work, the house, the kids, the hubby, and taxes. So I don’t bore you with all the details, I’ll hit the high spots for you. We’ve had a few adventures, turning points, milestones, and even a few laughs along the way since my last post. Scroll down to enjoy!

Our oldest boy is not new to the stage. He’s had roles in plays before, but this past Nov, he had the esteemed honor of playing the King of Hearts in a magical steam punk rendition of Alice in Wonderland!

King of Hearts (Center)

King of Hearts (Center)

(As I am sure you can appreciate – this picture is purposely blurred to protect identities of other children in this play.)

We’ve visited some historical places and paid respect…

Briceville Coal Creek Cross Mountain Disaster

Briceville Coal Creek Cross Mountain Disaster

It snowed in late November…

November Snow in East TN

November Snow in East TN

We searched for arrowheads…

Arrowhead Hunting

Arrowhead Hunting

We visited Gatlinburg (right before it flooded)…IMAG2396

Our youngest son had a choral concert in December…

Cole's Chorus Concert (he's in the middle)

Cole’s Chorus Concert (he’s in the middle)

We celebrated Christmas. The most fun was listening to the boys guess what was inside the 3 large boxes. They knew each one of them had a box and the guesses were hilarious. I heard: “Microwave for college”, “Individual mini fridges”, “Clothes”, “A giant book”, “Fluffy”, and lots of other silly stuff.

Christmas 2013

Christmas 2013

The most exciting part of Christmas came from the post office though! We received a surprise present from Royal Mail delivered from the UK. The mail delivery lady was so impressed by the package, she made a special stop by the house to make sure I went by the post office to pick it up and advised me she expected to know what it was. When I went to the post office, the branch manager handed it to me while the other ladies working there huddled all around. They all looked on quizzically in wonderment, fully expecting me to open it in front of them.  I said my thank yous and told them I would wait until Christmas morning to open it with my family.  Disappointed, they asked me to come back in and let them know what it was. The kids also guessed what was inside everyday until Christmas came. (Thank you John & Family!)

Royal Mail

Royal Mail

My fabulous friend at Praying Seven Designs made an apron for me!

I LOVE my new apron!

I LOVE my new apron!

We had more snow January 29, 2014…

More Snow

More Snow

The kids had laaaaazy days…

Lazy kids

Lazy kids

While looking for arrowheads along the river with  my husband on February 1st, 2014, I stumbled upon a creepy doll buried in sand! Oh the stories that came from that day…from the mysteriously appearing and then disappearing tiny foot prints that appeared afterward to the creepy doll theories – we had many stories to share.

Creepy doll

Creepy doll

We took the kids on a retreat to The Wilderness in the Smokies in Sevierville, TN. They had a lot of fun that day, but since it’s a water park – there are no pictures to share with you. (Camera+water=disaster).  We stopped in a small Chinese restaurant during a stay and I received a nice fortune :

Nice!

Nice!

Snowlady duck-face Selfie

Snowlady duck-face Selfie

On February 12 & 13th, it snowed again! I made a duck-face snowman selfie :-)

The kids were party poopers. They wouldn’t come out to play in the snow with me, but Nick made a snowman too!

Nick's Snowman

Nick’s Snowman

For Valentine’s Day, my sweet husband gave me my absolute favorite little golden balls of happiness! We also went out for dinner.

my absolute favorite little golden balls of happiness

my absolute favorite little golden balls of happiness

So, all in all, we’ve stayed busy. Combine daily football workouts, ACT prep work,  multiple choral events, working 7am-8pm each day and all the regular daily house work, plus trying out some DIY Pinterest inspired crafting disasters equals…kinda busy. But, to you, if you’ve come all this way to read – I offer my sincerest apology for not writing something before now. I’ll be writing more soon, I promise!

ODD – Do you feel alone?


I received an email from a fellow blogger about an article she wrote on childhood disorders. After reading through it, I felt it is certainly worth a good share!

If you have a child with ADD, ADHD, ODD, Major Depressive Disorder, Bipolar disorder, Hyperactivity, Anxiety Disorders, PTSD, OCD, social phobia or any phobia – this is a great site to check out. In this article, she outlines the statistics and allow us to see that we are truly NOT alone in our parenting adventures!

Give it a look-see and perhaps…you won’t feel alone!

With love and gratitude,

Chrissy

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